We’ve all been there. Usually, sometime after turkey and before the game starts, when the uncomfortable silence starts to descend upon a living room full of people who want to believe they know each other better than they really do, we ask the question, “How’s work going?” Because hey, we’re family, and we’re desperate to pretend we have a handle on or even care about what our second cousins do for a living. Also, we don’t really know what else to talk about. The most common response is “good,” followed by an excruciating 20-second pause before some innocuous detail is thrown in to either shut the conversation down or open the door for more meaningful interaction.

I am advocating for the latter and here to show you the way. Here are some quick pointers that can help you make conversations about work with your family just a little bit less awkward.

One of the many unintended consequences of a free and open internet is the unbelievable amount of bad advice out there. When the litmus test for value boils down to clicks and streams, quantity (not quality) reigns supreme. This ecosystem encourages, even rewards, bad behavior. Personally, I loathe every “5 tips for ____” post or article that makes its way into my inbox or feed. More often than not, instead of providing practical wisdom or insight, these articles are unnecessarily disconcerting, provocative, or bombastic leaving the reader more afraid and confused than anything else. Or, they are so soft and fluffy that while the reader may enjoy thirty minutes of comfort or peace of mind, they rarely provide any discernible next steps.

For jobseekers trying to figure out which companies to apply to, which jobs to apply for, and how to write a compelling resume and cover letter there is no shortage of terrible advice available. A quick google search on resume writing will provide you with 10 bad articles and little that will actually help you secure a new opportunity.