THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS STUCK

by Matt Thomas

I hear it all the time. “How’s your business?” “I dunno man, we’ve just kinda plateaued.” Okay. “How’s your marriage?” “We’re really in a rut right now.” Hmm. “How’s that new project/initiative coming along?” “It’s pretty much stalled at this point.” Sure. The underlying assumption is that if things aren’t progressing, moving forward, or getting better then they are simply at a standstill, as good or bad as they were the day things quit moving forward. As if static is even an option. It’s not.

The underlying assumption is that if things aren’t progressing, moving forward, or getting better then they are simply at a standstill, as good or bad as they were the day things quit moving forward. As if static is even an option. It’s not.

If your business isn’t growing, getting healthier, getting better then it is moving in the opposite direction. If your marriage isn’t getting stronger, more vibrant, with more intimacy then it is trending the other way. If that new project or initiative isn’t getting any traction then it is on it’s way to the junkpile. There’s no easy way to say it, if your business/marriage/initiative isn’t getting better it is getting worse.

Every day businesses open and businesses shut down. Every day a young couple gets married and another calls it quits. Every day a project moves the ball down the field and every day another initiative gets killed before it ever gets legs. At the center of every business/marriage/initiative is a human or multiple humans. Human beings are not static. We are in flux every single minute of every single day. Our bodies, our emotions, our thoughts, all of it changing all the time. Even the steady eddies among us wake up each day just a little different.

Human beings are not static. We are in flux every single minute of every single day.

I am a die-hard Dallas Cowboys fan (and no doubt just lost a few readers). I watch every second of all 16 regular season games plus the playoffs God-willing. The rest of the year I don’t carve out any time to watch other sports, but if Lebron James is playing I’ll stop and watch. If Mike Trout is up to bat, I’m going to pause and take it in. If Messi is on the tele I’m paying attention. I stop and watch, not because these athletes and a handful of others possess otherworldly gifts and have skyrocketed to the top of their respective disciplines. I watch because I am in awe of the amount of willpower they have exerted over their training, health, and mastery in their given sport. Are they uniquely gifted? No question. But the best of the best have committed to exerting their will in an effort to maximize their gifts to their fullest potential. They don’t get stuck because they are always working to get better. Getting worse isn’t an option.

You’re not stuck because outside forces have conspired to render your P&L a dumpster fire. You’re getting worse because you’re not doing everything you can to get better.

The same is true for your business. You’re not stuck because outside forces have conspired to render your P&L a dumpster fire. You’re getting worse because you’re not doing everything you can to get better. Your marriage isn’t in a rut because the fire is out, or little kids have taken over the house, or you’re too busy. Your marriage is getting worse because you’re not fighting like your life depends on it to make it the safest most vibrant relationship you have. That new project isn’t losing steam because your people just won’t get on board or you don’t have the resources to see it through. It is seconds from the trash can because you lack follow-through and commitment when things get difficult or uncomfortable. Or you get distracted because a shiny new toy came into view.

If we’re honest, we feel stuck because we really aren’t willing to do whatever it takes to get better. I’ve felt this numerous times in my business, marriage, and new initiatives. Instead of blaming other people I’ve found that when I double down and commit to doing whatever I can with everything I have, one day I’ll wake up, and low and behold things are moving in the right direction. They are getting better. Sure there is a lot we cannot control, but don’t underestimate how much we CAN control. I pray you gain the courage to change the things you can. Go get ‘em.